"You, Me, We provides a powerful framework for making intentional decisions about how we connect. Follow this recipe and your work-life (and the work-lives of those around you) will change in a big way!"
Wall Street Journal–bestselling author, The Long Game; executive education professor, Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business
You Me We
Why We All Need a Friend at Work
About The Book
You, Me, We is a book for leaders who want to improve―at leading, yes, but also at their lives.
How so? By building deep, long-lasting relationships that set everybody up for success.
One of the most important indicators of individual, team, and organizational success is the presence of an Ally Mindset.
When we have best friends at work―people who are with us in good times and bad and who help ensure we make it through together―we thrive. When we don’t, we flail and eventually crash and burn, leaving only a smoking hulk of debris behind as evidence that we were ever even here.
You, Me, We shares valuable lessons on the five practices of an Ally Mindset so you can not only be a better friend at work, but also experience greater happiness, collaboration, and business outcomes.
“One of the best things a leader can do for their people, especially during turbulent times, is to make sure they have a best friend at work. You, Me, We is the guide to make it happen.”
Mark Goulston, M.D.
author, Just Listen; member, Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches
For The Book
Praise For The Book
“I have coached executives in far too many organizations where the negative relationships have outnumbered the positive ones, and these negative relationships have caused great harm—interpersonally, financially, and in many other ways. Ultimately, this book is all about moving from me to we and how to take the first step to turn our colleagues into trusted friends and allies.”
Dr. Marshall Goldsmith
Thinkers50 number one executive coach and New York Times– bestselling author of Triggers, Mojo, and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There
“This book is so very insightful and truly underlines the importance of having great friendships at work. In a world where employees are leaving their workplaces at a record pace, You, Me, We provides the perfect recipe to keep employees tied to organizations longer. If you are looking for ways to connect your team, re-energize them, and make them want to stay, this book is one of the best investments you can make.”
Heather R Younger
Bestselling author, The Art of Caring Leadership
“It is so easy to show up as a critic in our relationships. Of course, being an ally is far more effective. What makes You, Me, We such a great book is that Morag Barrett, Eric Spencer, and Ruby Vesely don’t just acknowledge the importance of being an ally, they actually help us do it. Read this book. Put their advice into practice. Your relationships will be better for it!”
CEO, Bregman Partners; author, 18 Minutes and Leading with Emotional Courage
“Relationships with our colleagues are a key source of engagement and satisfaction, and building strong ones has never been more important, or more challenging. That’s why I strongly recommend You, Me, We. It lays out the practices for building an Ally Mindset, which can make every day you spend at work more rewarding.”
Author, How Women Rise, The Web of Inclusion, and The Female Advantage
“Business performance and employee engagement converge when we’re in the presence of allies. By adopting an Ally Mindset, the nucleus of You, Me, We, leaders will learn how to show up unconditionally for everyone while inspiring their teams to invest in the power of critical workplace friendships.”
EVP and Chief People Officer, Crocs
“We know that one of the characteristics of an engaged employee is one who is excited about opportunities to learn and grow at work—and feels as if they belong. Learning and growing happens more effectively in organizations with inclusive cultures. You, Me, We provides the road map we all need to look up, show up, and step up and build the ally relationships, the friendships, that ensure success for the long term—for employees, and for the business.”
Chief Learning and Diversity Officer, Kraft Heinz; author, Let’s Learn Our Way Through It, Shall We?
The Secret Sauce
Grounded in empathy and whole-hearted leadership, Ruby makes life lighter for everyone around her with deep understanding, truth-telling, and organizational prowess.
Morag Barrett (she/her)
The Head Unicorn
A rare combination of absolute candor, business acumen, and boundless concern for others’ success, Morag is the boss we all wish we had and the partner everyone needs.
About the Authors
Morag, Eric, and Ruby didn't just write the book on better relationships at work, they've lived it…together.
A trio of best friends and coworkers at SkyeTeam, they've been practicing the principles laid out in You, Me, We for more than a decade. They've built a successful global consulting firm together, gone offroading together, vacationed together, and eaten their weight in bacon together.
They’ve shared tears, laughter (a LOT of it), and the joy of creating a ton of magic for themselves and their clients. Most importantly, they've been allies to each other, looking up, showing up, and stepping up during every professional and personal crisis they've experienced. Together, they can say with certainty that life really is #bettertogether.
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Build Better Relationships Within Your Organization
Improve engagement, collaboration, and results by bringing the principles of the Ally Mindset™ to your organization. We’d love to help you develop the mindset and relationships that will create success for everyone in your company. Here are some additional resources we offer.
Give your leaders and teams a shared understanding of high-quality relationships and how to build them, one interaction at a time.
Inspire and equip your entire organization to create powerful Ally relationships that can revolutionize their work, their performance, and their lives.
Apply the principles of the Ally Mindset™ to your organization’s culture with a workshop customized for your unique needs and situation.